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Okay folks, so I said that I would chat with you guys about red flags next, and perhaps that will come up. But really I want to talk about what happens after those first few dates and you think you found the ONE.
Disclaimer ( I haven’t been on a million dates, I’ve been with my husband since I was 18). That being said, I feel like my advice comes from observations, my own relationships (romantic and platonic), and my general feeling about people.
Most people that I have been around are so excited in those early days of dating. It’s someone new and the idea of what that can bring into your life makes you feel alive! I get it! But, before you get too ga ga over him or her, don’t forget about yourself.
If you don’t smoke and get sick from the smell of it, you may not want to date a smoker…that’s an easy one.
They are not all that easy, I promise. I guess my point is that you have to be true to yourself in all parts of the relationship, even when your giddy “I met the most amazing …” Or “I think this is the one.” Here’s the thing if you go against who you are in your soul for someone else, you won’t be happy.
In this life you will be happier finding someone who is willing and happy to go on life’s journey with you, and the only way that can ever happen is if you are true to yourself.
AKA don’t settle, because I promise people don’t change for anybody but themselves.
More on that statement later!
Remember stay true to who you are👊
I am by no means an expert on relationships. I don’t think anyone really is. What I do know is people. People always ask me relationship advice and I happily give it. But I only give it when I am asked. I am not big on butting into peoples business. Sure if I saw something police worthy I would help a fellow person out, but that is not what we are talking about here. I would like to start a blog series on relationships! My first question is about my audience. Who is my audience?
The short answer. I don’t have one, yet.
My first conversation about relationships is going to be about the beginning. I am talking about the honeymoon phase. This is the phase where each person tells you everything you want to hear, but shows you nothing. Of course, why wouldn’t they. You don’t lead with the fact that you are a hoarder or the fact that you’re ex is stalking you! Everyone, and I mean everyone leads with their best foot!!!
So what is my point? Before you get too over-the-top-running-and-singing-in-the-streets-gaga over your new guy or gal, remember that no one is as perfect as they seem in the early stages of dating, not even you! This is important. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be excited for the prospect of new love in your life, you should. But this is also the stage where you should be paying attention. You should be watching for what your new guy or gal is going to show you! Because you can only hide the ex, or the single pathway through your place lined with everything you have collected since you were five! I’m sure you’re not a hoarder 🙂
My point is, the real you and the real them, will be coming around soon to meet. I don’t think it a good idea to ignore or be blind for this all important introduction! This is when the real relationship starts!!!
I’m just sayin’
Next weeks conversation….All those red flags!!!